This characteristic is the backbone of desi survival, yet it is a widely loathed one amongst desis . All desis make a sincere effort to stay away from other desis who belong to the same region as them. Ironically, these efforts are also made at a group level where a desi group from a particular region maintains safe distance from other desi groups from the same region. Such groups tend to have at least one other desi who doesn’t belong to their region. This helps make all the desis in the group feel like they have ‘other’ friends.
Diverse desi groups are not entirely a myth however. Each member in such groups though does belong to his/her own regional group. Desis in a diverse group have made some serious efforts to get there, but they tend to cave into the pressure when confronted with other desis who have a ‘group mentality’.
Mixing different desi groups is extremely inadvisable unless you do not wish to be on time for all planned events of the day or indeed don’t want to leave at 6 am as decided on the previous night. Mixing desi groups has also caused many a waiter to give up their jobs. Mixing groups puts all the desis in a thoroughly confused state of mind. Large groups of desis are always found in this state of mind. It is very easy to persuade desis when they are in this ‘ zone’. If you find yourself in such a situation it is best that you pitch another idea to couple more desis around you , form your own group and break-off from the larger group.
To be fair to desis, it must be said that the world at large does not give any chance to a single desi ; the white man’s disinterest in cricket not being the least of the reasons. When a desi is left alone , all he sees is other groups of desis. He eventually copies these other desis and ends up in a group.