Desis love to keep their romance under wraps for years on end, even after the remotest of their acquaintances have guessed and gossiped heartily about their relationship status (and gotten well beyond bored of it).
In the arsenal of the clandestine desi love birds , we find vehement and often rational denials (“My friend, really? Of all people YOU think I’m seeing HER??!!??”) , well-conjured up alibis (” I needed to be there to pick up her roomie, yaar”), carefully thought out excuses (” See you guys later, I have some urgent work!” 
) and a trusted confidant(e) (akin to a magician’s assistant, picked out from the audience to add to the authenticity of the trick).
As a rule of nature, everything gets old over time. But the never-say-”yes, we are an item” desi couple flout this law by coming up with newer (and lamer) excuses ; some of which, put to shame classics like “the dog ate my homework”. Even the peskiest of your friends, with all their coaxing and cajoling skills, can at best get a relative percentage value of commitment from either of the two ( “Maybe 60%, I am seeing her and 40% she is”).
With the cat never, ever let out of the bag, it suffocates and chokes to death. Often, such occasions are marked by the unsurprising announcement of the wedding, with a sense of ‘thank god, its over’ feeling overwhelming friends. Details of the well-guarded stealth operation are revealed from then on, dispelling common desi romance myths (the newbies at the game take liberal notes of all those early morning dates which fooled literally,everyone 
) . The couple and the confidant(e) basking in the smugness of it all; living happily ever after.
Undisclosed couples can have their own reasons to try to keep it a secret
#1 Many times desis are very good at making the details of couple’s courtship their own business.
#2 Desis can be very good at acting like RSS agents and guards of ethics and morality by bringing on undue pressure with questions like ‘when are you getting married?’, ‘will your parents agree to this?’ etc.
#3 If they perceive a mismatch between the guy and the gal in matters of physical appearance or mental abilities, the couple can be subjected to cruelly judgmental and insensitive gossip.
#4 and if unfortunately, the couple end their relationship, desis can ensure all hell breaks loose upon them.
There is usually little celebration and instead a ton of gossip and speculation.
The most popular excuse to their friends … “Hey, I don’t have any minutes. Can I call you back?”
There is another set of desis who maintain great secrecy when they bring a date home. It is common for the flatmate to stay the night away from home. This is to make sure that no one can guess the identity of this date even if he/she has been at the said desi’s house half a dozen times
Desi flatmates who cannot control their curiosity will be left questioning the casanova desi for clues with negligible success.
speaking of desis and dating…who knew there was an indian twin of jfk jr. out there somewhere?
http://myveryworstdate.blogspot.com/2009/04/dynastic-cabin-fever.html