A direct result of parents setting up a desi on a date.
For most cultures, the concept of an “arranged” marriage might be a bit alien but, for desis who are as far from the dating game as San Francisco is from Hyderabad, this concept is a manna from heaven. There is much to gain in an arranged marriage for all the people involved, including the bride and the groom.
For starters it is something that gives every desi a sense of assuredness.Desis who resist the charms of an arranged marriage eventually succumb to this very comforting sense later in life. Desis who accept their fate early on are well on their way to achieving their parents dream of becoming grand-parents before they hit fifty. Other advantages include helping desis concentrate on building their careers instead of going on useless pursuits of love.
When it comes to arranging their marriages, our otherwise very liberal and progressive thinking desi, must agree to marry a person belonging the same caste/religion. This has less to do with racism, and more to do with our solar system and some simple economics. To be a successful “alliance seeker” , one must enumerate all their positive attributes such as one’s visa status. Another simple rule to be successful is to create a profile on <insert region>matrimony.com. This takes care of most of the background pre-requisites and helps desis arrive at a quick decision (a general oxymoron in the desi context).
A trick question to ask a desi married couple would be whether their marriage was “arranged” or “love”. The really quick-witted ones might answer by telling you that their “love was arranged”.
You are so right, love & marry or marry & love, but compromise is must to carry things forward.
Reemas from PrivateMarriage.com
I am a white American man who wishes to marry a Desi. When her parents ask (and I’m sure they will), what caste do I belong to? Religion should be no problem as I am Catholic and Mother Theresa is well loved in India. Thanks in advance for the advice.
Moose…I wish it is that simple but unfortunately not!! Try it and be prepared for a SMACK!!
Moose.. just say your a Dalit
that will win you your desi bride
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The sharp couples says it was “assisted.” Hehe.
Dude you did not reply to us yet?
Some more stuff desi like
- Whine about “Des”. Politics / corruption
- Desi songs / dramas / movies
- Silly Desi functions
- Sharing knowledge of America to newer desis
- Telling ppl what they used to be in “Des”
- Telling youths how they walked miles to go to school
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Boy: What do you do for fun, like on Saturdays and Sundays?
Girl (hears lame question for the nth time, bangs head on wall, returns to call): I murder, pillage, destroy…generally spread anarchy. I also have turned my basement into a lab where I communicate with aliens and tell them how to take over Earth. In between, I attend to Arranged Marriage calls such as these.
(Change order of sexes according to situation. Definition of fun as something done only on certain days of the week and heaven forbid, not at any other time is purely desi and not coincidental.)
U gotta love AM though, nothing comes close to the experience!
Hilarious but 100% true post. I think arranged marriage is the greatest gift that ancient rishis gave to us
. It is a boon for smart, sharp , intelligent who are just not good at getting chicks, or may be it is because of arranged marriage that they don’t get them 
. Arranged marriage is a great leveler and gives the Desi the smugness that he’ll get the best gal provided he does manages to get that phoren MBA and makes him chase the degree than chasing skirts 
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Arranged marriages are far better, suits desis very well. You’ll have to be lucky to have someone take all hassle out of you, prescreen the girl’s background and let you meet. Same thing what dating agencies do. Except you are expected to make a decision in a short time. If either party disagrees the hunt continues to replenish the supply.
Look at it this way.
Finding the “right” girl is not so easy. You’ll have to spend a lot of energy, money and time and date like crazy; imagine speed dates, online dates etc etc. Even so there is no guarantee you’ll find an exact match. After endless dates People get tired and learn to compromise. That stuff about “Every man has an exact match somewhere” is a pure humbug. That is for dudes who doesn’t mind waiting till 80.
I don’t have such a problem since i’m a DESI GAY guy(SHOCKED??!!!NEVER HEARD OF ONE!!??)
But yes Desis come in GAY breed too you know. So for me arranged marriages are a ‘perfect’ no!
I’m thinking–all the desi in this blog must be like-’Woa, a desi gay guy,pity his parents’(our great(sarcastic) Indian culture is just shattered)
IN YOU FACE STRAIGHT PEOPLE….I’M HAPPY AND HAVE A DESI BOYFRIEND…!!!
Kudos for coming out of the closet! good for you… and I am sure desi community is well aware of desi gay’s, as you will not be the 1st one, I have quite few Desi friends who are gay & (happy).